Monday, 13 May 2019

All Things Real

Spring and (relatively) warmer weather is here. So we have been spending more time on our cottage. It is very modest place: spacey, yes, but there is no running water, no sewers, no electricity. Outdoor toilet. I love it all so much.

Spending time on a place like that really brings you "back to basics". Since there is no electricity, it is unpossible to heat the cottage when we are away. So it becomes quickly as cold as the air outside. And since the cottage is so spacey, and has rather small and unefficient fireplaces (it was build for summer use only), warming it up takes forever. Once, years ago, when we went to the cottage Friday evening it was -27. Inside. We just managed to get it +something when it was time to leave on Sunday afternoon.

After that we have purchased a light petrol heater. It is very efficient and uses very little lamp oil. With that and two fireplaces, we usually manage to get the cottage to +15 when it is time go to bed, if we start from -15. We have very warm sleeping bags, so that is warm enough. And of course we heat up the sauna, so we will be nice and warm when we go to bed.

On a place like this, time changes. You are not living city time no more. You are living Monastery Time, Or Tree Time. It does not really matter, what time it is. In winter, it is very dark on this latitudes. One notices she get sleepy before 8 p.m. Because it is so dark, no matter how many candles and oil lamps you are burning. And you sleep late, because sun gets up so late and there is nothing to wake you up. Sometimes you wish you could stay up little later, just to watch stars, because there is no light pollution. But the darkness and cold and finally getting yourself warm make you very sleepy.

On summer, on the other hand, you don't notice it it getting late. Woodcock will start to fly over, on it's territory flight. That's how you know it must be over 9 p.m. Close to midsummer it is still so light you can read outside with no lamp. You won't get sleepy, because it is so light, and you will wake up incredibly early because birds start singing and sun is getting up.

You get to burn real fire on real fireplaces. You get to burn candles for an actual purpose. Wintertime you bathe in sauna on oil lamp light -lamp is hanged outside the big sauna window, otherwise steam would very easily damp it. You go swimming in the little river with your headlamp on, pushing icecubes away. It is like swimming in a whiskey grog, since the water is brownish.

You spent most of your time outside, because there is no electricity: even in summer the cottage is fairly dark inside. And there is plenty to do outside: you can chop and carry wood to sauna and inside the cottage, you can carry water to sauna. Sauna cauldron must be heated before you can wash up dishes or bathe. (I hope cauldron is the right word: I mean a built-in cauldron inside sauna. It has fireplace underneath. People used to boil laundry in them, very convenient. If you google "Muuripata", you will find lots of pictures from different eras.)

Having a off-grid cottage is a wonderful thing. Nowadays people value their comfort so much that they even put washing machines to their cottages. But then you could just stayed in the city. To me, the idea in cottage-dwelling is getting away. You get away from all the pressure of modern life. You can, for a short while, try to live like our ancestors did, focusing on the survivalists Holy Trinity of: food, shelter, clothing.

On that Monastery Documentary I linked, the monks mentioned how they try to make everything they do a prayer. When you make that time-shift from city-time to Tree Time, the same thing happens to you. Everything you do has a special meaning -even if all you do that day is sit on porch stairs watching grass to grow (my favourite activity on sunny summer days).

Weekend's (or weeks, if you suffer from severe case of city life) off-grid cottage-dwelling will introduce you all things real. And make you a real thing. You come back to you, to the person you were before society started telling you you should dress and act certain way and keep up with the Joneses and make tons of money and so on. You start remembering who you are and what is really important.

In my country the greens would want everybody living in towns, because it is "better for the enviroment". Other parties want people in towns because that's where the jobs are. Maybe, or maybe it is because town living makes people so miserable it is easier to control them. And sell them shit they do not need.

Say no to city lights and -life. Say yes to Hobbit life.

Friday, 3 May 2019

Yes. It Really Is That Bad.

I mentioned to a fellow housewife blogger how I must keep my blog strictly anonymious, because it would be absolute social suicide if someone I know would find out how I actually think. She asked me, can it really be that bad?

Yes. Here in Finland, it is. Think about country that is almost as feminist as Sweden, but has no culture of "att diskutera". (Here in Finland we mock swedes because they are seen too soft and willing to discourse about things ad infinitum, in order to avoid anybody getting upset.)

This country is very, very feminist. We also have, and always have had a culture that glorifies hard work, stiff upper lip, coping all by yourself, not thinking you are something special or different, blending in, being humble etc. Historically we have been very poor and underpopulated country. That means finnish women have been forced to work harder than women did in more civilized countries. And working hard has always been really, really overrated. There is an old saying: "Who does not work, should not eat" and it is still very popular. The division of labour was still always there, though.

So nowadays "the working woman" is literally the only option there is. If parent wants to stay at home until her/his infant is three years old, goverment will pay them allowance. But women who choose to stay at home that long are mocked. Even though our best authorities on child psychology say that kids under three years need routines and safety, not "early education" in kindergarten, huge majority of mothers go to work when their kid is 9 months. Their excuses vary: some say they would go grazy if they had to stay at home any longer, some say they would love to stay at home but cannot afford it (still they usually can afford two cars). And the paradigm about the importance of "early education", that only educated kindergarten teachers can give (to 20 kids at a time) is really strong.
Kids are institutionalized from very young age. This is some sort of soviet ideal. Your children are not your children, but governements. 

When some poor woman makes the mistake to ask on some forum: "I would prefer traditional gender roles. Anyone else?" She will be mocked. She will be told two things:
1. Housewifes did not actually exist. It was only really, really short phace from 1930's-1950's. Otherwise finnish women have always worked hard. They conveniently forget that even though finnish women were forced to work hard, the division of labour was very strict and even regulated by law: women, for example, could not tailor men's clothes at 19th century, they could only be seamstresses for women's clothes. In commercial way, that is, of course one could make clothes for her husband. On earlier centuries, only in very rare cases (husband dead, no male relatives) woman could get the priviledge to be a burgher and do business.

2. You will be doomed when your husband leaves you (or dies). Now dying is unevidable, but women seem to marry with the mindset "we will divorce anyway, better make my own money". Women, who do not have marriage settlement, are concidered stupid, because married or not, your money is your money. Mothers who want to stay at home with their kids are mocked because they are soooo in trouble when they retire and they haven't paid enough pension for themselves, and what if your husband leaves you and you have no workplace? You will be doooooomed. Always, always be prepared to be left alone. You must be able to survive alone, you must not rely on your husband in any circumstances. It is only wise to be prepared. 

I have seen the same formula on conversations online so many times. So yes, there may be other women who would like to be housewifes, but nobody dares to open their mouths. Only if your husband is ice hockey player (and therefore rich), you can get away with being  a housewife because
everybody knows "hockey wifes" are just blond hussies, too stupid to work anyway. 

So work you must, if you want to be taken seriously as an adult woman. Also, you must have sex. 
I have seen several times how some 20+ woman asks for advice: she is a virgin and would very much like to loose her virginity with someone special, but men she dates want to proceed too fast and when she wont give in, disappear. She will get answers like this, all with very hateful and aggressive tone:
" I cannot believe someone still thinks virginity is something special." (doing something big first time is nothing... not exiting or scary or emotional... nothing special...)
"Many girls are born without hymen, what difference does it make who breaks it?" (maybe, just maybe, it is not about that tiny peace of flesh but about getting more intimate you have ever been with another human being for the very first time?)
"You are getting too old, just get it over and done with and start living like everybody else." (because when you have once had sex, you are able and willing to slut like the rest of us do. I fyou don't you must be frigid or something.)
"No man will want to have a relationship with you, because they know with a prude like you sexlife would be unexistent and boring." (Apparently if you do have a sex drive, it just forces you to have casual sex: if you do not have casual sex, it is a proof you have no sex drive.)

Even if you have had sex, you are not safe. If your relationship breaks, your girlfriends try to encourage you to "get back to saddle". If you do not feel like having sex, you should just do it, because the best way to get over one man is to lay under another. I remember reading a blog post, written by highly intelligent, highly educated feminist woman. She had wondered what was wrong with her, because she was not interested in having sex after her divorce. Then she found out she is a demisexual. What a relief! There was a newspeech-word for her anomality! My blog post about demisexuality.

Women mocking other women for not working and having sex... It used to be vica versa. Working mothers and "easy" women were mocked. Somehow I feel it was more natural. Men calling women "wallet parasites", if they do not pay exactly 50 % of family expenses, no matter how big wage gap they have. Though I must say these man are rare, it is more common that women mock women. I actually feel most men would happily go back to traditional gender roles tomorrow, given the change. 
It is also very typical to think "men come and go, frienship is forever". Women see their girlfriends more important than husbands and devoting to your husbans is unheard of (hence the divorce rates.) I have heard people claim loosing a friend is a bigger thing than loosing your husband, who is, after all, only a man. Apparently their wedding vows mean nothing to them. I mean I have vowed many things to my husband, but nothing to my friends. Ever. This should make it very clear what is important, and yet women keep putting their girlfriends first. 
I have understood that loving your children is still fine, though. 

In this country, with many people, you cannot say that keeping your knees together would prevent you from having STDs. Or not getting drunk with strange men might helpo you not get raped. That would be victim shaming. And all that feminist jazz.

This is why I write angry rants on my blog, propably just harming my cause. :) This is my safety valve, it helps me keep my mouth shut on social gatherings.

Tuesday, 23 April 2019

Monastery Living

If you removed from your life everything that is not necessary or bring you true added value and joy, what would be left?

Watching BBC:s program Retreat: Meditations From a Monastery made me think of that. The program is well worth watching. Very slow and silent.

Retreat: Meditations From a Monastery

"A new BBC Four programme which premiers on Tuesday showcases what life is like for Benedictine monks.
The three part series called “Retreat:  Meditations from a Monastery” will highlight monks in Downside Abbey, Pluscarden Abbey and Belmont Abbey."
New Programme Shows a Day In a Life of a Benedictine Monk

Truly, if you removed from your life everything that is not necessary or bring you true added value and joy, what would be left?

Would you use social media?

Would you gossip in the phone with your friends?

Would it be important to shave your legs?

 Would you drink coffee?

Would you read cartoons?

Would you go to the cinema?

Would you wear high heels?

Would you eat hamburgers?

Would you read romantic novels?

Would you read the Bible?

Would you bite your nails?

Would you have long hair?

Would you nag at your husband?

Would you listen to music?

What would you say? When? To whom? How? 

The questions I listed above are just questions I have been asking myself. I tried quitting coffee last summer, so I know drinking it truly brings me joy and adds value to my everyday life. But I feel more and more that I should be silent more. It feels like most of the things I say (or write) are not really worth saying. World is full of noise and words and images nowadays, do I really need to pollute it even more with my social media updates? 

I wish I could make my life my own little monastery, where applicable. I am not planning on staying up till midnight for vigilia. Or giving up my earthly vices like reading romantic novels and eating candy. But the stillness. Tranquility. How they do their everyday tasks so peacefully. In monastery, hurry does not exist. I assume it is because they have all the time of the universe. When you do God's work, it is not measured with human's time but His. If your time runs out, someone else will continue His work. Or this is how I see it. If that is not beautiful and worth seeking for, I do not know what is. 

How I wish a was a proper christian, able to believe.

Monday, 15 April 2019

Book Review: The Road To Power

Sanne Wijker from Adventures in Keeping House -blog resently published her second book and I got the priviledge to read and review it. You can read my review of her first book here. You can purchase The Road To Power and read synopsis here.

He pulled out a drawer and took out a ray gun. The weapon felt heavy in his hand. With a click the safety mechanism got disengaged. Now what was the best manner to shoot oneself? Through the temple or through the mouth?  (quote from the book)

Words like "honor" and "duty" are rarely used today. In this book, however, they are used often. This describes well the pseudo-victorian world and morals people live in The Road To Power. Story takes place in the same universe as Sanne's first book, The Long Way Home. I actually suggest you read that first, that way you'll get clearer idea what sort of dimension people populate in these space operas.

The Road To Power is a space opera, like The Long Way Home, taking place in the same universe. Otherwise it is very different book and independent story with new characters. There is more political schemery and sligthly less action. There is still plenty of action and adventures, but the speed is not quite that breath-taking. I appreciated that a lot. Plot is very unpredictable (that seems to be typical to Sanne), I had to read to page 70-something before I got any idea where the book is going and still plenty of surprises waited for me. Gothic family secrets, sword duels, beautiful adventuresses and elven queens, spies and assasinations.

Sanne's text is witty, ironic and apt. So apt, actually, it becomes almost a fault. She manages to say everything with the least possible amount of words, leaving reader screaming in her head: "Yes, but what kind of parfum she used with that dress? How people wash their hair in that world?" It almost feels like cheating: she knows all those fascinating things about the world she has created and won't share. At least to a detail-loving person like me. This is, of course, a matter of taste and other people very likely enjoy this sort of reduced narration very much. I enjoyed, too, but I would still like to know the details...

I would recommend The Road To Power (book is greatly named, I must say) anybody who likes adventures, sci-fi, romance and such. The love story was rather sweet and the book in general very entertaining. But if you don't like the hero being a ladies man, don't read this. Despite of all his honor code's Eric is a very naughty boy indeed when it comes to ladies. I obviously liked him a lot.

Saturday, 6 April 2019

Thursday, 28 March 2019

How To Not Look Like a Feminist

In modern society, everything is statement. Wearing a scarf certain way suggest you are a muslim and not shaving your armpits suggest you are a hard-core feminist -or french. Since MRM and misogyny are growing, and most of their hate focuses on feminists, we non-feminist women most certainly DO NOT want to be confuced as one.

I actually must link to this article from ROK/Roosh:
Attractive Girls Who Became Feminists

That is actually rather good article, and gives us good guidelines. Ladies Against Feminism also had a good article about the Death of Pretty or something that sort, but LAF seems to be on vacation. It was about how pretty is not valued anymore, only sexy is, and Olivia Newton John's role in the Grease was set as an example how pretty becomes sexy -and slutty...

World was such an innocent placet at the 70's, was it not? Even the latter picture is really pretty and modest compared to modern-day feminists.

Based on the article from ROK/Roosh and my own experience, I suggest you avoid being confuced as a feminist by following these guidelines:

1. Keep your hair normal. If you dye it, do it with some natural colour. All sorts of chicken's rear cuts, side-hedgehog cuts are no-no. You can have pixie cut only if you as classic beaty like Natalie Portman and shave for a role in a best-selling movie. Also, do not colour your eyebrows blue, red or any other than a shade darked than your natural colour.

2. No tattoos.  If you do not remember your children names without tattooing them on your body, there is something seriously wrong with you. Absolutely no tattoos on face, arms, chest, neck or other areas difficultly covered. Little rose on your rear end will do no harm, but it is still waste of money.

3. No piercings. At least, not on visible places. If you pierce your ears like most of us do, one pair of earrings is enough, thank you very much.

4. Keep your clothes on. For some reason, feminists who used to whine men objectifing women with their vicked gaze, are taking their clothes off and shooting semi-pornographic pictures. Apparently it is empowering. Keep your clothes on and your fat ass to yourself.

5. If you have fat,cover it.  We all know loosing weight is not easy. But if you feel you should wear what you want and flaunt your body in the name of body positivity -well, don't. Just don't. Cover your fat. You can still be pretty, but the fatter you are, the more you should focus on class and dignity. 

That's the important part: focus on class and dignity.

6. If you have bodily hair, cover it. Now some of us have so very tender skin, that removing bodily hair can be difficult, and some just like their hair. Having bodily hair is normal, but flaunting it aggressively and provocatively is not. 

7. Don't wear prints saying "slut" or such. This should be obvious.

8. Smile! This is the most important one, and I totally forgot it and hat to come back to edit. Have a sweet smile on your face, or at least try not to have resting b*tch face. I have noticed women who call themselves feminists hardly ever really smile in pictures. They may have weird grins, but never a genuine smile. It mast be all that oppression. 

Just focus on class and dignity.

Sunday, 24 March 2019

My Name Is Blaise, Modesty Bl- Or Was It Brent, Madeleine Brent?

I recently found out that author Madeleine Brent, who wrote romantic historical novels back in the 70's-80's, is nothing but a pseudonym for Peter O'Donnell, the creator of Modesty Blaise. He started creating Modesty Blaise at year 65.

That was a real mindblow for me. I have adored Modesty Blaise -novels (not cartoons) forever, and also liked Madeleine Brent very much. But I could have never, ever guessed Madeleine Brent is a man!

So obviously I had to re-read all the novels and make comparisions. Surprisingly enough, I found many similarities. Modesty Blaise has very mysterious and controversial past and she has developed some very remarkable skills. Madeleine Brent's heroines are all very young, but they all have strange or unusual past: that is, compared to the upper middle class enviroment where they end up on adventure. They also have some skills that are very unsuitable for young ladies and raise eyebrows on their new social circles. Now they do not possess combat skills like Modesty Blase, but they are all physically extremely competent, unlike other women at that time.  If they do not have special skills in the beginning of the book, they develop them, like Casey in " The Long Mascarade".

It seems to me mr. O'Donnell liked games and was particularly fond on the game of chess. Two of Madeleine Brent's heroes are good gamblers -the other one even makes living with it, and the heroines play chess and even some gard games in every book. Or mahjong. But when Modesty Blaise is extremely intelligent and knows it (she can play chess with Willie Garvin in her head, with no chess board), Madeleine Brent's girls are naïve almost to the point of stupidity -even though they know most facts of life better than young ladies should, a fact that causes some of them great social trouble until they learn which things are better left unsaid. Modesty Blaise has developed strong mind-control skills: it started naturally in her childhood, and she continued to develop them further with some guidance from a hermit. Some Madeleine Brent's heroines have also that naturally developed talent for some sort of mind-control, but they have not developed it further.

Many Modesty Blaise books and some Madeleine Brent's books also contain a aspect of supernatural, at least in the form of foreseeing. In "The Merlin's Keep" there is actual sorcery. It seems to me Peter O'Donnell was rather interested in such. I reckon it was fashionable at the 60's and 70's, even serious studies where done of foreseeing, telekinesis, etc. 

Are these books feminist, then, with their competent heroines? I would say no. It is obvious that Modesty Blaise is something very extraordinary, a product of unusual childhood and life added to superb genes and ability to develop them. Now Madeleine Brent's heroines see themselves "just ordinary girls who happen to have some useless skills anybody could learn, given the change" (Casey in "The Long Mascarade"). They may be strong and competent, brave and independent, but in the end they need that strong manly arm to lean on. And so does Modesty Blaise: when she has really bad "gig", she needs to cry afterwards against Willie Garwin's shoulder. Willie does not cry.

These women may be superior compared to other women, but not superior compared to men. I find it right and just, and so are these heroines: honest, straight, pure-minded, gallant, with strong sense of honour. Yes, even Modesty Blaise, former criminal. And all these young ladies like their pretty clothes more than an average feminist would, even though they find walking in long skirts tricky. It is amazing how in detail Mr. O'Donnell likes to describe women's clothes.

What I especially like in these books is how physical everything is. I love it when people drudge and sweat and suffer, and yet keep enjoying their well-functioning bodies. I think in almost every Madeleine Brent book the heroines must perform some physical activity that is almost beyond her, so she just closes her mind, performs that task (usually saving someones life) and when she have just managed to crawl over finish line, faints. Modesty Blaise is so extremely fit, both physically and mentally, that she is never pushed that far.

Mr O'Donnells/Ms. Brents patriotism is always there, rather visible. I absolutely adore to read older books, where brits are still proud of their empire, not ashamed of it and feeling guilty like they are now. Even those heroines who have lived among completely different culture (but have british roots), see the superiority of british culture and ways and people (oh, the white supremacy!), even though they do find etiquette and upper class women's position rather restrictive, getting used to more active life. 

I think I could recommend these books to anybody who likes historical adventures - Modesty Blaise -books are mostly from the 60's and 70's, so they are getting rather historical, too. In Modesty Blaise novels, there is no actual romance, only some sex, but Madeleine Brent's are very romantic in most charming and innocent way. The only minus I would give to these books comes from the lack of that dry, ironic british humour we all love so dearly.