For her life had to be more than just embroydering an appron; she had to have work to do, a meaning for her life.
Apparently embroydering your own appron is degrading. Being a seamstress, who gets payed for the same act, is not. Having your own tailoring business is superb, it ennobles you in a way than your title of marchioness never could.
Running your own household, however big it is, is mere slavery. Running someone else's household as a paid housekeeper is a career, and therefore fullfilling. Interestingly enough women running their own households are both slaves and both bored to death while embroydering their approns. Housekeepers are never bored, they work so hard that their mistresses can be bored and focus on embroydery, and somehow all this is so very satisfying to the housekeeper.
Being a governess or a nanny to other people's children is highly respectable. You do get paid, after all. The more oppressed your position, the brighter your martyr's crown. On the other hand, if you are just taking care of your own children, you are a slave, bored and all that appron-embroydering.
Having a Chocolaterie is as good as it gets. You do make money of it, and enable all that chocolate-eating those appron-embroydering homeslaves must do - Valium wasn't invented at those times and one cannot have vapeurs all the time, can one? So chocolate it is. On the other hand, if you are making your own petit fours at your home, maybe even with your own children -if that is not the cruelest form of slavery, I do not know what is!
I could go on forever, but I think you got my point already. In the minds of a modern writer, the only value woman has is the paycheck she gets. Her actions as such have no values. Money is the only value a person can have. Well played, feminism. In order to get more respect to women's work, you managed to degrade us and everything we do. We, as women, used to be outside that money-defines-your-worth- thing. Above it. It was actually concidered that mother's or even wife's presence at home is priceless. And then came feminism and market economy. I wonder, if market economy is the only reason modern feminism was invented. In system like this, everything must have monetary value. That's why religion is dead, too.
I wonder if we well finally reach the point where being a prostitute is a fine thing, because, hey, they get paid for it! And having sex with your husband makes you sex-having-robot. People already often see housewifes as housekeeping-machines with no intellectual pursuits. It is like the paycheck makes all the difference. Housewife, taking care of her own children, is boring. Woman who works in a kindergarten, is so much more interesting, because she has a work and she gets paid! And so on.
Feminism was never for women. It has always been for market economy. It has always been for destroying traditional values. It has always been for breaking the homes. We live in a society where everything is measured with money, even people's worth. It goes so deep that people do not even notice it anymore. The fact that lightweight historical novels advertice that same paradigma proves it.
Why? Why all this? Only explanation I can think of is that people are easier to control when they have no values, no roots, no time, no happiness. They are just producer-concumers.